"INFJ" Themes and Relationships
By Linda V. Berens Ph.D. and Dario Nardi Ph.D.
|INFJ - Foreseer Developer
|Likely Social Style:
- Theme is foresight.
- Use their insights to
deal with complexity in issues and people,
often with a strong sense of “knowing”
before others know themselves.
lie in developing and guiding people.
- Trust their inspirations and visions, using
them to help others.
- Thrive on helping
others resolve deep personal and ethical
- Private and complex, they bring
a quiet enthusiasm and industry to projects
that are part of their vision.
Themes and Relationships
for each Personality Type
by Linda V. Berens, Ph.D.
Dario Nardi, Ph.D.**
For Foreseer Developers, life is a process of never-ending
personal growth, their own and others’. If something
does not produce personal growth, then it is not truly
worthwhile. If it does, then it is indeed worth all the effort
it takes to make that growth happen. They enjoy problem
solving in ways that sustain the vision they have of what
can be and who we can become. They devote their lives
to honoring the gifts of others, helping them to see what
those gifts are and to find a way to develop those gifts.
Taking a meaningful and creative approach to all
aspects of life is essential to their well-being. This gives
them the inner strength to allow others the space to be
themselves and make the choices they make. It is then
that their talent for foreseeing becomes painful. The hard
part is that sometimes people don’t want to hear all the
insights they have to offer.
Interpersonally, exploring issues is important
and navigating through all the emotions that make up
relationships is essential.
Their thought processes tend to be highly integrative
as they frequently become aware of the profound
significance and interrelatedness of the many ideas,
relationships, and events around them. When they allow
themselves the space away from the hustle and bustle
of day-to-day life, they often are conduits for profound
symbols that speak to many. Symbols and metaphors
come to them easily as ways to bridge differences and
connect people with their potential. Yet they often find
themselves engaging in quite practical problem solving,
which doesn’t begin to reveal the rich foresight behind the
suggestions they offer and the agendas they set.
They live life with such a sense of purpose that they
often present a very task-oriented side to the world that
belies their more visionary, idealistic side. Such a life
often presents them with a great deal of stress, which can
cause them to withdraw from others to seek some sort of
relief and recharge.
For Foreseer Developers, relationships are about
developing potential, their own and others’. They seem
to tune in to the essence of the other person and take
great pleasure in developing what they see there, usually
by focusing on the positive aspects. They have a way of
communicating that results in improvement and growth
and often are disturbed when the negative is emphasized.
They know what impact their words will have and don’t
want to say what they can’t take back—always aware
of the implications of the communications. They are
usually able to manage their own emotions so well,
others may perceive them as distant. While they don’t
like conflict, they won’t avoid it if it can improve a
relationship or lead to growth. Relationships are often
forged around suggesting solutions to problems, and they
feel validated when the other person finds them catalytic
and helpful. They will work hard to avoid conflicts of
interest; they must be ethical. It is difficult for them to
be in relationships where they can’t be who they truly
are. While they may come into a relationship with
expectations, they are often willing to change to meet
Their close relationships are built on a strong vision
of what a relationship will become, emotional intimacy,
and shared values. They can be very intense, and their
partner may not share their intensity. They can be playful
but cautious. Their relationships are generally long and
enduring. When the relationship is right, the commitment
fulfills their highest purpose and they give it their all.
Even though there is a strong empathic connection, there
may still be a reserve and there always remains a piece
that is private. Paradoxically, they need both solitude
This concludes "Themes and Relationships for INFJ,"
A Personality Type Description.
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